I cannot tell you how many times, my mind has had me in all kinds of expectation spills over the years.
Expectations of other people. And as a recovering control freak, I used to have pretty high expectations of how people ‘should’ behave in the world.
The bar was pretty high.
People ‘should’ get back to me when I message them.
They ‘should’ just know that when they say that I will feel like this.
It’s a kind of passive aggressive way of saying, “if you behave like that, I will feel like this, and instead of me actually taking responsibility and making a choice that supports me, I will blame you because you are flawed and are triggering me”.
It wasn’t until I found the work of Byron Katie that my little mind started to shift. In a positive direction.