Mum life is FULL ON.
Today as I was removing nits from one of our childs hair I was wondering what on earth I was doing before I had children (sorry if you are now scratching your head). And thinking how lucky we are with having 3 kids to have not had more incidents of them (this is the second only time).
Recently, hubby and I have done some ‘re-structuring’ in our home environment since he took a job where the head office is a two and half plane trip away.
It means he is home A LOT and when he isn’t at home he is travelling to head office. It means that I have had to move some of my work off site, be flexible in my approach to working from home.
Which is still evolving.
It also means that he has taken a pay cut. A cut that will be worth it in the long run, but a cut none-the-less that effects the here and now.
It has meant that I have had to be more mindful of where our money goes and it has also brought up in me the possibility that I may need another income stream.
Those of you who know me, know that for the last 7 years I have been studying and researching and pottering and playing and sharing what I love.
Well, things are calling me to do more of the work I love, serve more people and get on with helping heal the stuff that folks are really struggling with.
But I am a mum first. Today alone I attended the school watch child #2 do one of the most brave things. Delivering a speech in front of the junior school, with no notes, about why she is a great leader.
I was gobsmacked. Captivated. And so incredibly proud. I felt like I was on a bit of a high. Like after listening to an inspirational speaker!
Then, later that afternoon I am de-lousing another child. Washing all the things. And this week is a slow week because the girls have finished up dancing.
This mum job is incredibly undervalued. I know I undervalued it.
Recently as I put together a new resume, it occurred to me how many skills I have accrued being a mother, that even as a nurse I wasn’t exposed to.
But on a resume, “mum” doesn’t look too shiny.
But seriously, what a load of shit.
Because I had kids, I have had to face some of THE most challenging situations. And because of them, well, I have had to GROW THE FUCK UP.
Because of them, I have had to learn about my feelings. About how I communicate. About loss. About love. I have learnt so much from them, and by being a parent.
Not to mention all the other skills I have mastered (like being an uber driver) since becoming a parent!
And seriously, without them I wouldn’t have found my way to the work I enjoy the most.
But while I get that off the ground (re-brand and the like for next year), I am contemplating taking another job to increase our family income.
I am feeling particularly vulnerable about this. And concerned about how to juggle all the things, given I have been able to manage my own schedule for the last few years.
I’m telling you all this, because I want you to see behind the scenes. I want you to know that living a passionate and purpose driven life is not all rainbows and unicorns. It isn’t all ‘follow your dreams and it will all work out miraculously’.
Following your dreams is going to have so many obstacles. Being mum has it’s obstacles. Just getting through the day has it’s obstacles!
This is but the human experience! How exciting right??
I’m in it for the long game.
I have to ask for support when I need it.
I have to be kind to myself.
I have to live in accordance with what is most important to me.
I have to choose what is right for me.
I wonder what I will learn.
I wonder who I will meet.
I wonder where it will take me.
If you have a dream or an unrelenting passion that wont seem to stop pestering, please follow it. It isn’t a straight line. It is an up and down and round and around ride. But it is an adventure worth taking.
Until next we meet, keep showing up, keep being brave, keep sharing beautiful you.
P.s I am posting this in between picking one of the kids up from dance tuition, dropping another one at karate and picking the other one up from karate and dropping the other one off then to pick them up again!
All in a mum life!
There are still some spaces for the upcoming BUSY MUMMA MINI FOREST RETREAT. I’d love to share the space with people who get what it feels like to be all the things, seemingly all of the time. We’re going to get rid of some bullshit stories, and get in touch with our soul mumma who might have been shoved to the side while we are busy being busy mumma. GO HERE if you’d like to come along.