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Just start again. Yes. Do that!

Ever have that feeling like you have so much to do and just don’t seem to have enough time/energy/resource/mental capacity/emotional capacity to get it done?

Like many of us busy mummy folk, the end of the year has me bought both heaps of adventure, fun, laughs and joy and lots of time pressure, emotion, tiredness and sometimes; overwhelm!

It is so easy for me to forget how much awesomeness I have in my life when I am energetically depleted from overloading my life plate and focussing on and feeling frustrated by what ‘I haven’t yet accomplished’.

Sigh.

My neurotic-house-mate-mind is going to all those things I still have on my list of things to do. Racing around fussing over all the things left unattended. Anxiety ridden fellow is NHMM. Breath in breath out. “Yes my little mind friend, there is still a lot we want to do, lets spend some time later looking at it and developing a schedule to get it done”. Exhale. And yes, that is exactly what I ‘plan’ to do 😉

I didn’t want to use this time for that though. For this time, I really just wanted to write.

Something that gives me pleasure is to write. I’ve noticed the more awesome things I have to write about, and even not so awesome, I don’t write. If I miss one event to tap away about, I seem to lose momentum and then get overwhelmed with what I have to write about.

I feel like I have fallen behind, that I won’t be able to catch up. So I don’t write anything.

My critical-mind-house-mate says, “this is so typical of you”, and “yep, here is more of your pattern”, and “Pft, you’re never going to get it sorted” and “why do you even bother”?

Yep. Thank you for your ever ready feedback dear critical mind. I’m not going to argue with you. Nor will I agree with you. I’m just going to do some noticing…

Something interesting I notice is when I get out of the habit of doing the stuff I love and I start to notice my energy lessens. I start to become more negative. I get more tired. I am more snappy at those around me. I’m less motivated….

If you have fallen off the exercise habit track (another one of my areas of improvement), or the nourishing food commitment, or any other healthy habit, we can start where we are. The only stuff that exists in the past is what we recall in our minds.

Lets try to let go of the stories that our critical-mind-house-mate makes up. They aren’t helping to live our best lives. And when we want to live our best lives, we really have to pay attention to what supports that and what doesn’t.

Lets start again today. Write a few lines. Write in that gratitude diary. Choose a healthy lunch. Dance to move your body. Or in my case, lay down with an ice pack on my back [mulching the garden for too long will do that to some].

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I choose a new beginning. How about you?

Remember to always speak kindly to yourself.

Big love

Jen

PS thanks for the pic @friendlybraclets.

x

 

 

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It is just NOT cool…..

It’s just not, not cool to blame others when we fail to use our own voice.

I’m well practiced at this.

If hubby does something, or says something that either hasn’t met my expectations, or done something that has confused me…it is MY responsibility to sort that out.

He is happily going long just being himself, doing his thing the best he can….his intention is in no way to hurt me, or be-little me…in fact the complete opposite. He is always supportive, has my back, and is invested in my growth..literally!

When HE does something that doesn’t align with MY expectations….it is MY problem! Not his!

It becomes my story. I have to learn to speak up in the first instance, instead of letting it build and build and then it just creates mess.

Disconnections starts. Resentment builds. He gets confused because he has no idea what the issue is. Trust is damaged.

Victim position is assumed!! Oh poor me that they did that….Yes, but what did I DO? Made up stories and didn’t sort it out!

Finger-pointing outward is blame gaming and pain playing.

If I want a different outcome, I have to be the facilitator of change, not expect him to!

Heart felt truth in the first instance is a damn sight less contaminating than bottled up stories festering.

Accountability, not blame!!

The journey of learning.

THIS by Brene Brown!