Helllloooooo to YOU!
I’m Jen and I’m glad you stopped by to check me out. Size me up. Get an inside view. Or simply just spend some time procrastinating ;). Nothing is wasted.
You just don’t know how curious I am just how you found yourself here.
It is because of this love and curiosity that enables me to connect deeply with folks. That’s my gig. My gift even, dare I say it.
And my deepest love (beside my fam and inner circlers) is to provide a safe space for and help human folk to be seen, be heard, be accepted – however they show up.
Now, let be straight up so as to not waste your time. If you have stopped by for tips and hints about stuff, you ain’t going to find much of that stuff here.
If however you want to go to someone for tips and hints, then yes, I could be your girl. I’ll point you on your way because I know some amazing tips and hint folks who do amazing work.
I am a great signposter person and lighthouse. I have a delicious bunch of resources to point you on your way and guide you safe to shore.
If perhaps you stopped by to see what is happening with the weather and what Katie-Meris-Smushdashian is wearing…definitely not your place.
Superficial chit chat gives me anxiety, so nothing superficial will be here….not intentionally anyway.
Whinging about people who are leaders…without solutions being offered and putting your hand up to help…nope!
If you’re interested in latest trends and the ‘hottest’ stuff. Not so much.
I think you’re getting it.
At the most basic of basic levels, I am an imperfect woman who uses all of her life experience and training to help other humans.
I am a helper of humans.
A Human Helper.
Yeah, that pretty much sums it up.
That’s me in the pic below! Photo taken by a professional photographer no less! I know right?
I use a whole bunch of…(what’s another name for tools?).
Hmmm. I use a whole bunch of magical gifts that I have inherited along the way and put in my very pretty (imaginary) gift box ready to be passed on to you.
Urgh. Re-reading that, I got an image of Glinda the good witch off the Wizard of Oz. Well, apart from that wisdom “You had the power all along my Dear”, her and I don’t have too much in common.
I seldom wear dresses unless they are wrap dresses. I have boobs and hips people!
I hate running. If there was a bear chasing me I would just turn around, stare it in the eyes and say, “lets not even bother with this game”.
I swear. A lot. No, really a lot. So be warned. If you keep reading, you are going to read a lot of colour in here!
I’m funny as fuck. Ask me, I’ll tell you.
I change my mind. A lot. My hair. My opinions. My size. My favourite colour. Favourite song. Movies. The works. I change a lot.
“Thats all very interesting Jen, but how can you help me”?
What does any of that have to do with what I do? What kind of humans do I help? All humans? How can I help you?
I tell you what!
I’ve noticed the people that usually find themselves to me who I end up connecting with and subsequently working with are these kind of folks listed below. This might help you feel into if you would vibe with me or not.
- have pretty good lives actually. On paper, there really isn’t anything to complain about it…but they feel like ‘something is missing’.
- have had or are having a ‘what the fuck am I don’t with my life’ kind of moment or moments
- want to be able to accept themselves and stop hating on themselves.
- are having difficulties connecting in their relationships and want to make some changes
- are curious about having an ‘experience’ with one of the..what did I call them, magical gifts I offer.
- just want something ‘different’ in their lives but just don’t know what that is.
- want better relationships with their kids
- just want to interact with someone who when they leave, they feel better about themselves
- want the truth. No bullshit. No smoke blowing.
- want someone to walk through some of the darkness they have
- want a safe space to dump all their ‘blarghs’ and ‘burghs’ so that they don’t dump it on their loved ones.
- want constructive ways to deal with conflicts
- are generally lovely, caring kind people who just don’t recognise they are!
- just need a sounding board or cheerleader with their creative ideas
- creatives who are blocked up and need some energetic shifting.
- want to learn some new and cool shit.
Seriously, so far, I have had the privilege to work with some shit-hot amazing people, who are doing amazing things in the world.
If you are still here…maybe you want to know more about me? Sweet! And thanks for hanging in here.
This is where I tell you about my back story. I love a backstory, don’t you?
Well, that’s me in the photo on the left there! Just like the one above! I feel like I should be waving or something!
Like you, I am doing the very best I can, humaning.
The Backstory Part
Before I had children, I was a child expert. No, really, I was. Parenting was a piece of cake according to me!
Eldest of 3 with 7 years between me and my brother and 11 years with my sister.
Mum had difficulties with Bipolar Disorder and my father had difficulties with his drinking (not like drinking out of cup). The drinking of alcohol and abusing his family kind of drinking.
When my folks separated when I was 12, I kind of took the default spot of holding the second parent reigns.
All of this stuff, was the beginning of my ‘HUMAN HELPING’ stuff.
At 13 and 9 months I started my first part time job (earliest legal age at the time or I would have started earlier).
I worked in my, “Hi, welcome to red Rooster, can I take your order please?”, job all the way through high school. I contributed to the house hold expenses.
More human helping training.
At this age, I also found out ‘officially’ (because I always had a strong intuitive hunch) that my dad who I though was my dad, actually wasn’t! Exhale on that one!
At 14 I found myself in foster care with my brother and sister when my mum required hospitalisation for a Bipolar episode.
At 15 I was living out of home ( I had to go to court and all for that to happen), sharing a place with a woman and her 2 children. I rode my bike to school and “Hi, welcome to Red Rooster……” and the gym…where my exercise addiction began.
At 16 I moved back home with my mum. Became a vegetarian and went to a gym that put me on an 800cal a day diet using shakes! FFS. Wish I could go back and slap those idiots.
Full fledged eating disorder ensued.
At 18 I was the Youth Group Leader of children 13-16 at the local Salvation Army. Human helping.
At 21 left home again and drove my car 900kms north to start my new job as a Registered Nurse. H.H.
22 flew to the USA & worked in Upstate New York as an ‘outdoor educator’ for a while with kids between the ages of 13 and 16.
Returned home after a brief stink in the UK.
24 I packed my little Hyundai Excel and I travelled around Australia. I drove the Nullabore in one go (not recommended btw).
I ended in Perth with no place to stay, and a beautiful single mother stranger took me in. She had a 9 year old.
Spent some time in the emergency department and paediatric department of Kalgoorlie Hospital.
Met a boy.
Then more travelling.
Settled in Melbourne for a while. I trained and worked with High Risk Offenders (prisoners and violent offenders) in the Community…UM…massive human helping training!
Moved to Brisbane and worked as a Clinical Research Officer for a Cardiologist.
Got un-engaged to boy.
Annnnnnd met my husband!
Moved again. Married. Built a house. Bought a business. Had a kid.
SO, when it came time to have kids at age 29, I thought I would be all over it. I’d had enough training to know what it took to do this mummy business.
Woah-man did I lose my shit. My shizzle. My me.
This little tiny person human helping had me in a spin! BIG SPIN!
I was stuck in four walls much of the time like most new mumma’s are.
Then 6 months into my first mummy experience I fell pregnant. DOn’t let them tell you breast feeding is contraception. So after no. 1, no. 2 arrived.
Then 18 months later, no.3!
I was busier than I had ever been, had the kids, the family, the house, the car…but I felt completely fucking lost.
I WAS completely lost…so fucking cliche right?!
“In the middle of the journey of our life I found myself within the dark woods-where the straight way was lost”
So, what did I do?
Well, first I pushed my partner away and pretended everything was ok.
In public I was the mum who completely had her shit together. But in private. No. Fucking. Way.
I was exhausted.. And instead of resting when the kids did, I did more. More cooking. More cleaning. More folding. More tidying up little peoples mess.
Not long after we had our 3rd bubba, and were looking to build another house, I just knew. A deep knowing….I have to find another way. “This is fucked”!
My relationship was failing. My head was doing itself in. I felt like a slave to the shitty nappy. I felt crap. But not the kind of depressed thing…more of a “fuck this, there has to be a better way” thing.
I would have to find a way. And the stubborn, incredibly independent and cynical shit that I was, I had to find my own way. As exhausted as I was.
I started at the library.
I took the kids along to those “someone else to read to my kids bizzo” that they hold there for parents who can’t bare to read another story to their own kids.
I borrowed some books FOR ME.
When the kids were asleep (and awake) I read books on mindfulness (Oh and have you seen Jon Kabat Zinn’s books??? They are massive), mediation, mothering, relationships, positive psychology, womens health, career stuff.
I started reading things on line about how to be a better mother. Better person.
How to find your passions. What your bliss is. What you love.
I read Buddhism for Mothers. I re-read Simple Abundance. I read about mediation. I read about mindfulness. And I read, and I read. I went into my little bubble of an existence. Like sponge. I soaked it in.
I wrote. A LOT. Like wrote and wrote and wrote shit down. Burnt a lot of it. But wrote a lot down!
Little by little, I started to shift. Stuff started to shift. And I knew it was time I had to go ‘in here’ *pointing to chest*.
Motherhood introduced a turing point for me. I had changed in a way that was either going to break me or it was going to be the biggest adventure of my life. Honestly, it was a lot of both!
I have read more self help, spiritual, personal growth books than is probably legal. I started a personal growth book club so we didn’t just read them and have a party on our own, we discussed them, shared our stories and grew.
I have attended too many personal growth workshops to mention…and again, if it was illegal, I’d be doing time!
I did my certificate in Life Coaching.
Our relationship nearly ended so we ended up in Therapy!
Therapy…get therapy! I love therapy!
I became a yoga teacher student and reconnected with my body.
I started to blog and affirm how much I love to write.
I started presenting personal growth, creative, healing workshops and facilitating groups.
I developed and facilitated Soul Oxygen Retreats held in the beautiful Byron Bay Hinterland.
All this while loving my kids and encouraging them to live their own unique experience too.
Recently I joined a singing group.
And next year, a dance group *update..that didn’t go as planned..but watch this space*!
****AND ALL OF THESE GIFTS I RECEIVED FROM THIS ADVENTURE SO FAR, I WANT TO PASS ON TO YOU…….
…..and I don’t want you to be the stubborn shit that I was. I want to help you human…...
No matter where you are on your life travels!
I can help:
- Identify old thinking patterns and belief systems that are like the computer program driving your actions.
- Release old shit that isn’t serving you anymore
- Remember what your unique gifts are other than taking care of the “ho hum duty stuff”.
- Support you to reconnect to your dreams and fuse them with your current life.
- If you LOVE your kids SO much that you would do anything for them….but have forgotten how to integrate you in to life.
- Teach mediation. Body connection.
- Soul purpose exploration.
You and I will work well together if:
- You are done with the bullshit of not feeling like you are a full expression of yourself
- You know that it isn’t about someone else telling you what to do, but rather are open to explore your own inner landscape.
- You are prepared to do LESS than do MORE.
- You deeply want to move past this stuck position and you will do what it takes to do it.
If you are not sure we are a ‘fit’:
There are SO many amazing support folks out there and I reckon you have found me for a reason. But, if I were you, I would want to check out the person I would have helping guide me through this transition phase.
I offer one on one sessions in the flesh or over the ‘interweb’ 😉
So, lets organise a chat. A FREE chat. A chat to see if I can give you what you need and see if we can work together to create a full and vibrant life. Not just a ‘meh’ kind of life.
Fill in the contact box below under my pic to go through to my email and then we can arrange a FREE 30 minute Skype or Zoom hook up to see if I am someone who can help you in your ‘decision’ to live your best life!
Kids and all!
Looking forward to hearing from you!
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Big, big love.
Qualifications and stuff:
Mum to 3 kidlets (7,9,10) Wife Yoga Teacher Student: Peace Yoga Burleigh Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Practitioner Published Author: Inspirational Bible Bachelor Degree in Nursing Certificate IV in Community Corrections (VIC) Certificate IV in Work Place Training and Assessment (QLD) Personal growth book addict Workshop Facilitator Team Builder Life Lover 10 years exploring anything personal development! I love aqua and you can see me wearing it in the picture at the top of this page :)